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“MOM, you’re embawassing me!” hollered my four-year-old as I dance-cleaned my way through the kitchen.
Um, excuse me, little man, did I miss your 13th birthday or something? Because you are SO not old enough to be thinking that about your Mama. Seriously, I thought I had a few more cool years left! I’m sure I’m not the only Mama who lost her cool badge a bit early. And I’m sure I’m not the only Mama who hears that tiny voice that whispers,”Could I possibly be “embawassing” my child?”
I don’t think any Mom really wants to be seen as the odd duck. We want to be the best for our kids, we want them to be proud of us, and by golly, we want our hero status to last as long as possible! But what if our kids didn’t need a cool Mama. What if they needed us, as we are, quirks and all?
I think I might be on to something. And like the organized girl I am, I have the bullet points to prove it.
We Are Custom-Made to do Custom Things!
Before you start thinking I’m totally nuts, this is actually a Biblical truth. God has created each of us with a unique personality, looks, skill set and time in history. He also gave us our specific children. I think it’s more than possible that the God who so thoughtfully created the universe created our kids with our specific selves in mind. God gave us the kids we have because they were who we needed to be sanctified and fulfill the destiny that God has for us. When we stifle our God-given personality, I have to think that we stifle a bit of the Mama superpower that God gave us.
When We Operate Under a Mask, We Suffer!
For example; I’m a routine girl, and a couple of summers ago, I decided that I wanted to be that spontaneous Mama. I wanted to have absolutely no plans for that summer, I wanted to live large, go on random adventures and wing it. The problem is, the closest I get to winging it is ditching my menu plan for a meal out that evening. I was anxious. I was overwhelmed. Without a game plan, I wasn’t me and honestly? I don’t think that summer was as grand as I thought it was going to be. When we operate under a “Mama mask” that’s not us, we suffer. We get cranky, the mask is too tight, too loose, and eventually..it falls off.
When We Are Authentic, We Give Our Kids Permission to Do the Same!
There’s something beautiful about a person who’s not afraid to be themselves. I love seeing what people are passionate about, even if it’s the quirkiest thing because, to me, that’s a testament to a creative God. If I’m honest, I have quite a few quirks. I have an addiction to going to thrift stores just to get a book or two. I watch British TV like it’s going off the air tomorrow and I’m obsessed with pop-punk music. When our kids see those little quirks that make us uniquely us, they’ll feel more comfortable to be themselves.
I hope that someday my son sees my crazy dancing as a sign of authenticity and is somehow inspired to be his crazy authentic self too. I hope to never stuff my quirks down and to inspire other Mama’s (like you!) to embrace your wackiness and the kind of Mom you are- even if you look nothing like the Mom next door. Because the world needs your specific style of mothering. The world needs quirky Mamas.
And to my four-year-old son..
I may dance around the kitchen like a member of STOMP, but you think you’re a cat and meow at perfect strangers. Truce. 🙂